Women sharing tools for EASE with Pregnancy & Birthing

Last night I had the pleasure of hanging out with four amazing women who are leading the creation of a totally different way of being, doing & having ... BABIES!

A few of the key elements we discussed regarding how to have ease with pregnancy and birthing were...

1) Ask questions...all the time. Watch for our favorites!
2) You Know. (So does your body!)
3) Don't forget the Baby!  Ask it to contribute! They're big beings just coming in small packaging!
4) You're not wrong...ever.
5) What if you're creating a new reality with every choice you make?

Would you like to watch the replay? Here you go!

What if there is a totally different possibility available? What if it's your choice that creates it? Is now the time for a different paradigm with pregnancy and birthing? One where you know...and you're not wrong?

Let's create it!

To learn more about the women featured in this hangout, visit www.accessconsciousness.com or the Facebook group here!

Is there a wrong way to have a baby?

"Birthing" is one of the most controversial topics out there. It's also one of the choices in life no one is really trying to get wrong. However, with the current paradigm, there is not a lot of space to truly choose what works for you...without being judged.

In my experience, there are two worlds within birthing ... medical & natural ... both with equal amounts of judgment. If you're going "all natural" and you decide to use any type of medical intervention ... you are judged. If you're going "medical" and you decide to incorporate any type of "natural" method ... you are judged.

Here's an interesting article I came across today in Time Magazine about what counts as a "natural birth"and although there are a few opinions intertwined, I was happy to see a bigger discussion getting started about this;  Why Having An Epidural Should Count as Having a Natural Birth

There are only a handful of people in this "profession" who truly look at the whole birthing paradigm without judgment. Without polarity. Without a point of view as to what is right and what is wrong. And, I'm asking for that to change...

What would it take to create a world where every choice with pregnancy was just an interesting point of view? 

I was really lucky to find a mid-wife who gave me "choice" every step of the way ... without any judgment attached. She helped me look at every choice I had available and provided guidance when I required it without any point of view.

My target was to have as natural of a birth as possible, and it just didn't go that way. I ended up having to have an emergency c-section in the 36th hour of labor and there were a lot of things that went "wrong". There were a lot of things that were "traumatic". There were a lot of things that I could have "judged" myself and my birth for had I not been surrounded by people who truly had my back.

Here are the two questions that helped me come out of wrongness during my labor:

1) If nothing were right, and nothing were wrong, what choice would I have available?
If you take the polarity out of choice, more space opens up for what is actually possible. During pregnancy and delivery you are bombarded with choices. And, you can either be active in choosing what works for you and your body ... or you can let others choose for you. Choosing for me allowed me to KNOW that anything that occurred was based on where my knowing and awareness led me. If you come out of trying to get it right and avoiding being wrong, then you can access the space of total choice ... the space of infinite possibilities.

2) Would an infinite being choose this? If not, why am I? 
There was a moment when all of my 'hopes and dreams' for my perfect birth were shattered. The team told me that it would be best if the baby went to the NICU and they recommended a 48 hour treatment. This meant he would be in a separate room from me for two days. Thoughts of terrible things went through my head...He would be separated from me from the moment of birth. He would be all alone during the night. He wouldn't have that perfect "start" that I had so hoped for. And then I asked this question: Could an infinite being truly be separate? If not, then how could he? How could I? Will be he okay? Am I okay? And everything lightened up. The truth was, I was with him all the time. (And I had lots of people "with him" as I recovered...daddy's & grand-parents are great for that!)

To me, my birth was as natural as I could get. It was me...choosing...every step of the way. Today, my son is a super confident toddler who is one of the happiest beings on the planet. I never stuck him with the point of view that he or I "got it wrong" during his grand entrance to the world.

If we take away the judgement...we have more space to BE. And, isn't that what we're all seeking?

I hope this got you thinking about what is true for you. I hope it poked at some of those 'sacred cows' of the birthing paradigm. I'll leave you with this....

What's more natural than total choice?

3 Tips For Ease During Pregnancy & Birthing

There is A LOT of information that comes at you when you’re pregnant. Almost everyone has decided there is a “right way” to be pregnant and a right way to do “birth” and they love telling you about it! What if there isn’t a “right way” to have a baby? And, what if, you couldn’t get it wrong?

You see, consciousness includes everything and judges nothing. So, birthing from total consciousness would allow you to be totally present in every moment without judgment of you, or anyone else. It would allow you to receive everything, to judge nothing, and to allow everything to be what it is. If you can function from this space, you will have total ease with whatever shows up along the way before, during and after pregnancy.  

For me, having a baby was one big adventure in knowing that I know and that, I'm not wrong. Ever. What I’ve found in my own journey and in working with other women, is that it is truly different for everyone. There is no magic answer out there. There is no perfect process. There is just choice. And, if you use these tools...everything is changeable and anything is possible.

Here are my top 3 Tips for Pregnancy & Birthing with Ease:

KNOW THAT YOU KNOW

This one tool will allow you to sift through all of the information that is available so that you can choose what is true for you, for your body and for this pregnancy.

Tool: What is true for you will always make you feel lighter. What is a lie, will make you feel heavier.  If you think “truth” before talking to any medical professional, doula, midwife etc., what is true will actually be exposed. You can also do this with information you are reading. There is truth in everything. You can ask, what’s true and what’s a lie here? You’ll know. Yes, I’ll say it again. YOU ACTUALLY KNOW. :-)

ASK QUESTIONS

When you ask a question, you open the door for a completely different possibility to show up. You also invite the Universe to show you the easiest path possible. Which can be nice to have during pregnancy and labor...just sayin ;)

When I was pregnant, I was one of “those people”...I had a plan. A birth plan. I typed it out and I went over it with everyone. I was (am?) a bit of a control freak!  And, as it can be, in the amazing adventure of living ... nothing went according to “plan”. However, as I said above, if you use these tools, everything is changeable and anything is possible!

Here are my go-to questions to ask every day: 

• Who does this belong to? 98% of your thoughts, feelings and emotions aren’t actually yours. During pregnancy, some of them are actually the babies! It’s fun! With this tool you can get clear on what’s yours and what’s not...just by asking this question! 

• If I wasn’t the one thinking or feeling this, what would I be aware of? This is another version of who does it belong to, and really great to ask especially in a hospital...or really anytime you’re around other people!

• What’s right about this I’m not getting? Instead of going into “this is terrible” or “why did this happen” or “why do I feel like this” asking this question allows the Universe to show you the beauty in what’s occurring and open you up to receiving infinite possibilities. 

• If nothing were right, and nothing were wrong, what choice would I have available? Every question is not about getting an answer, right or wrong. It is about getting an awareness that gives you multiple choices. When you say, “I’m sure everything will turn out fine,” that is not awareness. A question would be: “I wonder how this is going to turn out?” which empowers you to be aware of all possibilities. 

• Universe, will you please show me something beautiful today? Would you be willing to know the universe desires to support you totally? Would you allow the universe to have your back? Just keep asking...What else is possible? How does it get any better than this? And allow the magic to show up :-)

GET YOUR BARS RUN

The Access Consciousness Bars are 32 points on the head, that when gently touched, release the electromagnetic charge of all the thoughts, feelings and emotions you have that are limiting you and creating dis-ease in your life and your body. Often times there is a lot of charge around everything when you’re pregnant. Ever notice?

Your body is changing. You are more ‘sensitive’. You’re aware of the projections, expectations and judgements of thousands of people around you. You have lifetimes of beliefs around birthing. When you get your bars run, you get rid of the mind chatter and the heaviness in your body and what gets created is more space for ease and infinite possibilities. It's easy and really simple.

Most of the time, the Bars are run while you lay on a massage table, if you’re towards the end of your pregnancy, you can ask the practitioner to run them while you’re seated in a chair or zero-gravity chair so that you’re comfortable and not on your back.

After having their bars run regularly, many women have reported easier pregnancies, shorter labor and faster healing for the body.

Access Consciousness is available in 131 countries around the world. There are more than 2,000 Access Bars practitioners worldwide. To find one near you, go here. To watch a video and learn more about the Access Bars go here!